Author: Dov Heller

We all bring some baggage with us into our marriages. We all carry some pain within us that needs healing. Each of us is imperfect and in need of character refinement. A crucial task of marriage is to allow yourself to discover your weaknesses and take responsibility for working on …

I recently had a very interesting meeting with a couple who came to me for marriage counseling. The first thing they told me was that they loved each other and considered each other good friends. However they felt they had no choice but to divorce since they didn’t feel any …

When the honeymoon is over and reality sets in, when the guests all go home and the two of you are sitting in your house alone, the question arises: What are you going to do for the next 50 years together? Human beings need meaning like they need water. Married …

One of the crucial tasks of every married couple is to be able to work together as a team. Life’s constant challenges and demands require that decisions be made in order to carry on the business of life. A couple must be able to work together effectively, which means they …

As a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in marriage counseling, I meet so many couples who just don’t know how to be married. They don’t know what to do, or more importantly, they don’t know what’s expected of them to make their marriage work. Marriages improve drastically when partners understand what their …

With the divorce rate over 50 percent, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic,” try to internalize these 10 insights. #1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after …

Everyone lives with “shoulds.”  One might say Judaism is a way of life built on shoulds, such as, one should love others, one should keep kosher, one should give charity.  For many, their shoulds are experienced as positive and fulfilling.  Meeting ones moral obligations is a great source of pleasure.  …

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right! If you ask most couples who …

“Strengthen Your Love with the Power of Clarity.” RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENTS AND COUNSELING For couples who are beginning to think seriously about marriage. My goal is to give you a clear picture of the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship by: Identifying Any Potential Areas Of Serious Risk Evaluating Your Over …

As a psychotherapist, it is clear to me that the main reason why people suffer is because their emotional growth stopped somewhere in their childhood. And when people stop growing emotionally, important parts of themselves don’t develop fully. We might say that important parts of their personality were lost somewhere …