Author: Dov Heller

Twenty-five years ago, I enrolled in Harvard Divinity School to study modern theology from a very liberal perspective. From this perspective, God was an academic subject, an abstraction. The reason I opted for this “modern” way of looking at God was that because the more traditional way turned me off. …

What in life do you feel is coming to you? Health? A good job? Children? A peaceful retirement? Check yourself out. If you’re like me, you probably have a whole list of things you feel entitled to, and if you don’t get them, you feel cheated. If you are unable …

What is life’s greatest pleasure? It’s not an easy question. Close your eyes a minute and think about it before you read any further. What did you come up with? We know the answer is not cars, vacations or golf, although some of us may have a pretty good argument. …

Habit #1: Give Each Other Pleasure Happily married couples are committed to the goal of giving each other pleasure. You must stay focused on the ultimate goal – which is to give each other pleasure and not cause pain. It sounds simple enough, but can be very hard in practice. …

7 Steps to Lasting Love Intimacy is primarily about how two people make each other feel. If you consistently make each other feel good, then you feel close to each other. If you consistently make each other feel bad, you feel distant from each other. There are thousands of books …

I want to give you a tool that I guarantee will drastically improve your marriage in one week. Both you and your spouse need to make a commitment to do the following: Don’t cause pain, give pleasure. After doing years of marriage counseling and being married for twenty years, I …

Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife. Trust is something that can be cultivated and nurtured if you will follow the guidelines below. I can sum up the essence of building trust in one idea: Create a safe emotional space for …

An eight-week intimacy building program that will greatly increase the closeness and pleasure you want to experience with your spouse. True intimacy is one of life’s greatest pleasures. The potential for all of us to increase our level of closeness is great, provided we are willing to make some changes …

We all bring some baggage with us into our marriages. We all carry some pain within us that needs healing. Each of us is imperfect and in need of character refinement. A crucial task of marriage is to allow yourself to discover your weaknesses and take responsibility for working on …

I recently had a very interesting meeting with a couple who came to me for marriage counseling. The first thing they told me was that they loved each other and considered each other good friends. However they felt they had no choice but to divorce since they didn’t feel any …