LOVE IS A RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH EACH PERSON VALIDATES AND RESPECTS THE OTHER PERSON’S FEELINGS AND INDIVIDUALITY AND IS COMMITTED TO NURTURING THE OTHER PERSON’S GROWTH, WELL-BEING AND HAPPINESS. THE ESSENCE OF LOVE IS FRIENDSHIP. Questions to ask about your relationship: 1. How do I feel with this person? Safe? …
THE INTIMACY INVENTORY
SCORE THE FOLLOWING FROM 1 TO 10: 1. How emotionally connected do you feel to your spouse over-all? 2. How content are you with your marriage in general? 3. Ability to negotiate and resolve conflicts. 4. Ability to reconnect after you fight or disagree without any left over bad feelings? …
THE NINE REASONS WHY PEOPLE MARRY THE WRONG PERSON
INTRODUCTION There are two types of daters: Those who want to get married and those who “say” they want to get married. People who want to get married keep track of the issues that need to be clarified in order to make a decision to marry or not to marry …
Questions you must answer before you say, “I do!”
1. What is your worst fear if you marry this person? 2. What do you still need to know in order to be certain you want to marry this person? 3. Is he/she a kind person? Does he/sh enjoy giving pleasure to others? 4. Is he/she a responsible and reliable …
SPIRITUALITY
The world of feelings and the world of spirituality ultimately meet in the world of exquisite joy. Psychotherapy cannot take the place of spirituality, nor can spirituality take the place of psychotherapy. They are two distinct paths to personal growth. And each contributes something unique to a person’s quest to …
LOVE AND INTIMACY
“When two people listen to each other’s feelings, they create a space for love.” Everyone can fall in love, but not everyone can stay in love. Falling in love does not require emotional strength. Staying in love requires great emotional strength and well-being. Love is about connecting at the emotional …
THE THERAPEUTIC RELATIONSHIP
The experience of being deeply understood by another person is in itself transformational. The prisoner cannot free himself from the prison.” The Talmud It is almost impossible to free ourselves from our own emotional prisons. We need someone else to unlock the door. We cannot do it entirely by ourselves. …
THE LOSS OF SELF AND PERSONAL POWER
When we lose touch with our feelings and needs, we lose our selfhood and vitality. One of the major consequences of developmental trauma is that your self-development may have been significantly derailed. The home is the place where a fundamental developmental drama takes place for each and every one of …
ORGANIZING PRINCIPLES
One of the most fundamental causes of personal suffering is that people are imprisoned by their limiting organizing principles. The most primary activity of the human mind is that of interpreting and organizing our life experience. It’s crucial to understand that most of this organizing activity takes place unconsciously. As …
HIDDEN TRUTHS
Repression prevents us from knowing the full truth about ourselves. We cannot fully heal what we cannot experience. If you have experienced any developmental trauma in your life, it is likely that you have repressed it and are therefore not aware of it. This is understandable because people naturally tend …