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I want to give you a tool that I guarantee will drastically improve your marriage in one week. Both you and your spouse need to make a commitment to do the following: Don’t cause pain, give pleasure. After doing years of marriage counseling and being married for twenty years, I …

Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife. Trust is something that can be cultivated and nurtured if you will follow the guidelines below. I can sum up the essence of building trust in one idea: Create a safe emotional space for …

An eight-week intimacy building program that will greatly increase the closeness and pleasure you want to experience with your spouse. True intimacy is one of life’s greatest pleasures. The potential for all of us to increase our level of closeness is great, provided we are willing to make some changes …

We all bring some baggage with us into our marriages. We all carry some pain within us that needs healing. Each of us is imperfect and in need of character refinement. A crucial task of marriage is to allow yourself to discover your weaknesses and take responsibility for working on …

I recently had a very interesting meeting with a couple who came to me for marriage counseling. The first thing they told me was that they loved each other and considered each other good friends. However they felt they had no choice but to divorce since they didn’t feel any …

When the honeymoon is over and reality sets in, when the guests all go home and the two of you are sitting in your house alone, the question arises: What are you going to do for the next 50 years together? Human beings need meaning like they need water. Married …

One of the crucial tasks of every married couple is to be able to work together as a team. Life’s constant challenges and demands require that decisions be made in order to carry on the business of life. A couple must be able to work together effectively, which means they …

As a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in marriage counseling, I meet so many couples who just don’t know how to be married. They don’t know what to do, or more importantly, they don’t know what’s expected of them to make their marriage work. Marriages improve drastically when partners understand what their …

With the divorce rate over 50 percent, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic,” try to internalize these 10 insights. #1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after …

Everyone lives with “shoulds.”  One might say Judaism is a way of life built on shoulds, such as, one should love others, one should keep kosher, one should give charity.  For many, their shoulds are experienced as positive and fulfilling.  Meeting ones moral obligations is a great source of pleasure.  …