Everyone lives with “shoulds.” One might say Judaism is a way of life built on shoulds, such as, one should love others, one should keep kosher, one should give charity. For many, their shoulds are experienced as positive and fulfilling. Meeting ones moral obligations is a great source of pleasure. …
Dating Strategies for the Marriage-Minded
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right! If you ask most couples who …
Relationship Assessments
“Strengthen Your Love with the Power of Clarity.” RELATIONSHIP ASSESSMENTS AND COUNSELING For couples who are beginning to think seriously about marriage. My goal is to give you a clear picture of the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship by: Identifying Any Potential Areas Of Serious Risk Evaluating Your Over …
PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION: IN THEORY AND PRACTICE
As a psychotherapist, it is clear to me that the main reason why people suffer is because their emotional growth stopped somewhere in their childhood. And when people stop growing emotionally, important parts of themselves don’t develop fully. We might say that important parts of their personality were lost somewhere …
INNER PEACE—INNER POWER
“I think it’s a mistake to ever look for hope outside of one’s self…I tried to die near the end of the war. The same dream returned each night until I dared not to sleep and grew quite ill. I dreamed I had a child and even in the dream …
GETTING CLOSE TO YOUR FEELINGS
It’s quite possible that you are struggling with painful feelings. There are many possibilities: anger, shame, guilt, sadness, loneliness, hate, jealousy, insecurity, criticalness, inferiority, fear, arrogance, helpless, powerlessness, or anxiety. How do you deal with them? Some of the common approaches are: 1. Change your thinking, such as reframing or …
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE
LOVE IS A RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH EACH PERSON VALIDATES AND RESPECTS THE OTHER PERSON’S FEELINGS AND INDIVIDUALITY AND IS COMMITTED TO NURTURING THE OTHER PERSON’S GROWTH, WELL-BEING AND HAPPINESS. THE ESSENCE OF LOVE IS FRIENDSHIP. Questions to ask about your relationship: 1. How do I feel with this person? Safe? …
THE INTIMACY INVENTORY
SCORE THE FOLLOWING FROM 1 TO 10: 1. How emotionally connected do you feel to your spouse over-all? 2. How content are you with your marriage in general? 3. Ability to negotiate and resolve conflicts. 4. Ability to reconnect after you fight or disagree without any left over bad feelings? …
THE NINE REASONS WHY PEOPLE MARRY THE WRONG PERSON
INTRODUCTION There are two types of daters: Those who want to get married and those who “say” they want to get married. People who want to get married keep track of the issues that need to be clarified in order to make a decision to marry or not to marry …
Questions you must answer before you say, “I do!”
1. What is your worst fear if you marry this person? 2. What do you still need to know in order to be certain you want to marry this person? 3. Is he/she a kind person? Does he/sh enjoy giving pleasure to others? 4. Is he/she a responsible and reliable …