Shame is the feeling that results when we judge ourselves as bad and then beat ourselves upWhenever we tell ourselves we’re bad for some thought, behavior, mistake, habit, feeling, desire, intention, limitation, etc. we feel shame. Shame is the emotional experience of low self-esteem. Those who struggle with their self-worth …
Anger
There are two types of anger. The first type is anger most of us experience when someone does not act inaccord with our will, needs and expectations. The guy schmoozing with the bank teller when I’m tenth inline and feeling pressured to get to the office makes me angry. When …
This Could Save Your Marriage
I tell couples all the time that they should adopt a no fight agreement. Often their response is, ”Are youserious? Everybody fights.” Yes, but there’s a difference between good fighting and bad fighting. Theno fight agreement is about agreeing to avoid bad fights. A bad fight is destructive, damaging, hurtful,disrespectful, …
22 Jewish Life Principles
1. Life’s most important question is, what am I living for? Rabbi Noah Weinberg How can you live, if you don’t know what you’re living for? We know we are not living to eat, but eating to live which begs the question, what am I living for? Exercise: What’s …
How to be Your Best Dating Self
There are six things to keep in mind in order to be your best dating self and give yourself the best chance with the person you’re dating. 1. FEEL GOOD IN YOUR SKIN. To be your most attractive self, you must strive to look your best. This is not about …
Anger
There are two types of anger. The first type is anger most of us experience when someone does not act in accord with our will, needs and expectations. The guy schmoozing with the bank teller when I’m tenth in line and feeling pressured to get to the office makes me …
The Key to finding Inner Peace
If we have the courage to listen to our pain and learn from it, we will find inner peace and empowerment. Inner conflicts we don’t understand often undermine our inner peace. The conflict could mean that we are avoiding facing a frightening truth about ourselves and our lives. And as …
Inner Peace and Power
When we are not at peace, it is often because of an inner conflict we don’t understand. Much of the time, the conflict means that we are avoiding facing a frightening truth about ourselves and our lives. As long as we resist facing this truth, we will be at war …
The True Freedom
A primary reason why people feel out of control of their lives is because they are not in control of their feelings. We either control our feelings or our feelings will control us. When our feelings control us we generally make bad decisions. When we are in control of our …
The Legacy of Trauma
Unbearable pain makes life unbearable. Everyone lives with pain but not everyone lives with unbearable pain. One can feel alive with pain but not with unbearable or crushing pain. Having challenges and struggles often gives us a feeling of being alive. In fact, a life without challenge and pain is …