Here are the five C’s for building a loving, lifetime relationship. If you have these five
elements don’t wait, get married now!
1.Chemistry. You have good physical, sexual chemistry. Judaism says, if you are not
attracted to the person, it is best not to marry him or her. The sexual dimension of a
relationship is extremely important.
2. Character. Both of you are committed to life of working on refining your character
traits, such as patience, gratitude, giving, listening, and happiness. The foundation of
building a strong and deep relationship depends on the level of character refinement of
each person. There is a big difference between a nice guy and a guy who is working on
refining his character. There’s nothing more important for success in marriage than two
people who working on character refinement.
3. Common life purpose. You share a common life purpose which means that you know
what you’re living for. Most people don’t have a clue. Because of this shared life vision,
you will grow together and build a meaningful life together because your values and
priorities will be in sync. .
4. Communication. You have great communication. Most people don’t have this on
their list of what they’re looking for which is a huge mistake! Great communication
means you can consistently solve conflicts and problems. You don’t waste time fighting,
instead you talk things through and stay connected. The Imago Dialogue as a great tool
for learning how to listen and problem solve effectively.
5. Core emotional strength. You are both emotionally mature and healthy. Emotionally
healthy people are honest about their feelings and not afraid of strong and uncomfortable
feelings. They are curious about their feelings, know how to process them, and make
sense of them in order to learn and grow. Plus, they have the ability to talk openly,
honestly, and vulnerably with each other, which builds emotional intimacy and trust.