| INDIVIDUAL ANALYTIC PSYCHOTHERAPY |
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individuals who want to get to the root of
their problems and are willing to make a commitment
to put in the time and effort necessary to
do so. See “Basic
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| HELPING MEN WIN THE INNER BATTLE |
This is for men who have reached a point in their life where they are ready to make a serious commitment to conquering the “emotional demons” which have been holding them back. I have found that there are four key emotional issues that most impact a man’s well-being and happiness: Inadequacy, Intimacy (both sexual and emotional), Anger, and Responsibility.
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| MARRIAGE AND COUPLES THERAPY |
There are four important
aspects of marriage and couples therapy that
I focus on:
- To help you understand the unique emotional
dynamics of your relationship, especially
in the context of each other’s unique
family and life history, so that you will
be able to better understand each other
and the root of your problems.
- To help each of you separately understand
and manage your own feelings, in order
to promote greater self-awareness and
understanding of your role in the relationship.
- To maximize your ability to communicate
openly and honestly with each other and
to create a safe emotional space for each
other.
- To give you practical tools and help
you make rules that will help you maximize
your ability to take care of each other’s
emotional needs and make each other happy.
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| ASSERTIVENESS COACHING |
Perhaps the most
important skill you need to have in order
to be successful in life is the ability to
express your feelings and needs assertively. The
goal of assertiveness coaching is to help
you learn how to do this. Being assertive
does not mean getting what you want,
as many people believe. Rather, being
assertive means putting yourself
in the best position to get what
you want.
The first step in
becoming an assertive person is to be able
to clearly identify and own what you feel
or need. Sometimes we know
that something is bothering us but we cannot identify exactly what the feeling
is. To be an assertive person you must be in touch with your feelings.
The second step is to learn how to
express your feelings effectively. There are three communication styles: passive,
assertive, and aggressive. Sometimes we know what we’re
feeling but we’re afraid or ashamed to express it, so we don’t say
anything and stuff the feelings. This often leads to other problems, such
as passive-aggressive behavior. This is the passive style. On the
other extreme, sometimes the only way we know how to express a feeling is aggressively,
which is also not effective and often does more harm than good. When we
communicate aggressively, we attack by employing “you statements.”
The
goal is to communicate assertively, which is the most effective way to communicate. When
we communicate assertively we tend to use “I statements.” When
we express ourselves assertively we feel good about ourselves and the other person
will be much more open to listening and responding to us in the way we want.
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| TELEPHONE COUNSELING |
- Making counseling available to anyone,
anywhere in the world.
- Specializing in dating, marriage, and
relationship consultations.
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| RELATIONSHIP ASSESSEMENTS
AND COUNSELING |
Strengthen your love
with the power of clarity. This service is
for couples who are seriously considering
the possibility of marriage. The goal of the
assessment is to help you gain a clear picture
of the strengths and weakness of your relationship
and especially to pinpoint any danger areas
that may cause serious problems in the future.
A couple may also come with specific issues
to work on which they’ve already identified.
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| DATING ADVICE AND COACHING
FOR INDIVIDUALS |
This is for those
who are either in a relationship or looking
for a relationship and feel they need some
advice and guidance.
- For those not in a relationship who
want to be more effective in their dating
strategy.
- For those in a relationship who have
issues or questions that are bothering
them pertaining to their current relationship.
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| COUNSELING |
Counseling is a shorter-term
approach and generally for people who do not
have significant developmental trauma in their
history or what we might call, “heavy
emotional baggage.” In counseling, the
focus is much more cognitively and behaviorally
oriented, which means there is a much greater
emphasis on changing the way one thinks and
taking action. The focus is also more on the
present than on the past. What is common to
both counseling and analytic therapy is the
importance of identifying one’s organizing
principles.
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